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Index section
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1. Welcome to Elements!
2. Destination Success
3. Links: Time, SBA, AAA, Dream Homes
4. Coaching Notes
5. Upcoming Events: Decision Making Tele-Class
6. Newsletter Notes
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Welcome to Elements! |
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Do you have
definitions for professional and personal success and are they
similar or very different from each other? The first article below
lists how five successful businesswomen answer that question. When
the rubber meets the road to success, what values and beliefs do you
feel strongly enough to stand up for and not "modify" along the way?
As part of
developing my website, I'm creating succinct statements that are
web-worthy, convey my beliefs, and which will hopefully intrigue
clients—all without sounding too up on myself! It's not easy
to do and is similar to setting out on the work of defining what
"success" is for each of us individually. What I've found helpful
in this process is not having a deadline for coming up with
"answers", being willing to ask others for help with it, and setting
aside dedicated time to devote to the task of figuring these things
out. Also, trying out different approaches along the way to help
gauge reactions has been useful. It's certainly challenging to try
to create a balance between clarity and brevity, staying true to my
values, and accurately representing the services I offer. On the
developing website, you can see quotes from other Elements readers
that speak about myself and my services, and I value the insight and
contributions that you are bringing to the site. I'd like to invite
you to continue to be part of my website in this way. Your quotes,
feedback and suggestions for the site are most welcome.
Last month's
links had people clicking away; I hope this month's offerings create
the same clicking sounds!
I wanted to take
a moment here to thank Ruth Gleba for her editing services this past
year, and with this issue to extend a welcome to Diane Johns as our
new "Elements" editor.
The Upcoming
Events section has a listing of my first public, no-fee Teleclass on
decision-making. See if any of the September dates work for
you--I'd love to have you join in.
In gratitude and
appreciation,
Star
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2. Destination Success |
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I recently
attended a conference for women who want to grow their business.
The first session was with a powerful panel of founders and CEO's of
successful international companies. They shared provocative and
useful answers to the questions we raised. Here is a sampling of the
questions and their answers.
What is the
secret of your success?
1. Follow your
heart
2. Perseverance
3. Allow yourself
dreamtime
4. Have a BHAG--Big
Hair Audacious Goal
5. Listen to your
customers
6. Surround
yourself with incredible people
7. Create a
structure for answering and implementing the answers to these
questions:
a. What am I
passionate about, believe in and can get behind?
b. What can I be
"the best" at?
c. What are the
economic realities?
What does
"Success" mean to you?
1. When the
rubber meets the road, making the decisions that support your core
values
2 Making a
difference. The scale of difference changes at different points in
your life, and it's important to identify and balance those shifts
in personal tradeoffs as they arise.
3. Learn and
grow daily. Surprise yourself.
4. To be
vulnerable enough to emotionally share. To love to come to
work.
5. It's
measured in lots of ways, in layers and steps along the way that
show up in things like opportunities, growth, fun, learning,
financial stability, milestones.
In this business
forum, two things pleasantly surprised me and made an impression.
One was that their answers about what success means to them and
their "secrets" for it were not specifically business-related. They
presented themselves as having one integrated personal and
professional set of success goals. The other thing that impressed
me was that they were able to clearly answer and relate personal
stories about those two big questions. How easy would it be for
you to answer those questions? As a coach I know that the coaching
process provides an objective guide and place to explore questions
like these, so I wasn't surprised when two of the panelists said
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3. Links |
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Time Check Please
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www.time.gov
When you really
need to know the exact time or doubt the accuracy of the timekeepers
around you.
USA Small
Business Resource Guide –
www.sba.gov
There is lots of
information at this site for anyone considering going into business
or already in an established one. There are sample business plans,
resources, and information on grants, training and links to your
local SBA
More Self-Tests!
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www.humanmetrics.com
This site has a
free Jungian personality test, with Myers-Briggs type results. For
$3.00 you can take a Risk Assessment test, a Partner test and a
Business Entrepreneur Profile.
Triple A Auto
Club for USA and Canada -
www.aaa.com
I took a weeklong
car ride with my kids this summer, so I joined for the first time to
have the security of knowing I'd have help if we broke down in an
unfamiliar place. Annual membership was $40 a year on the website,
and I have extensively used their trip-planning tools and have found
them invaluable.
Home Designs -
www.hpadesign.com &
www.dreamhomesource.com
If you need
ideas, enjoy looking at or dreaming about homes, here are two sites
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4. Coaching Notes
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Thanks to all
the responses for volunteers for free coaching as part of coaches'
training courses!
Some of you may not
know that I offer a free "test drive" of one hour of coaching for
interested people to explore the process. These sample sessions allow
potential clients to get a feel for what coaching is about, as well as
to experience my particular style of coaching. Being coached
firsthand is the easiest way to describe it! The test drive gives us
a chance to see if we are the "right" partners for the coaching
process, and provides insights into some of the possibilities that a
coach can open up in your thinking.
I just returned
from an intense 3-day coaching workshop called "process coaching."
This workshop is, admittedly, the one I had been avoiding. It's what
a lot of people, including me, consider to be the "touchy feely"
class. It's the thinnest line between therapy and coaching. In the
other coaching skill areas, the ones I'm very comfortable with, the
models are similar to ones I've used and know well from other
disciplines. Process coaching is about being in "the NOW," not the
past or future. It's about experiencing the complete range of what is
going on for us when we are fully present IN the present. We explored
the NOW, and all of the emotions it holds, places we didn't want to
approach or feel or be in, and also the ones that we felt fine and
comfortable in. The good and the not-so-good all the feelings that are
held in the present moment, the NOW. The training is offered, and I
chose to take it, so that as a coach I am able to follow, and be fully
present for and in, whatever changes and transformative explorations a
client may experience in our work together as it happens.
Experiencing the NOW is helpful in coaching to uncover blocks that
prevent forward movement in the participants' lives. It allows both
client and coach to experience the present in a way that is
strengthening and clarifying when it is carried forward into daily
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5. Events: Decision Making Teleclass
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No-Fee
Decision-Making Teleclass – 1 Hour Please join me in my first public
Teleclass!
I've just completed
Training, Workshop, Seminar and Resource List for Business & Personal
Education for Success leader training and will be offering
teleclasses on their site soon. As readers of Elements, I invite you
to participate in the upcoming topic of Decision-Making. We each make
thousands of decisions over the course of our lives, some small, some
large, and in all areas of life—how do we do it? How do we know we
are on the right track? This Teleclass is for first-time or
experienced Teleclass participants. As a Teleclass leader I am part
content
provider, and part coach. The goal is to learn by surfacing the
wisdom of the group, and the leader is also included in the group as a
learning participant. Come prepared to listen, learn, and share your
thoughts on decision-making.
To participate in
any of the sessions listed below, please call this number at the time
listed as the start of the class -- 305-503-1852 X245
RSVP by phone or
email in advance to receive session materials:
stars@stardar.com
Business Decision
Making: ---Wednesday, September 18, 7:30-8:30pm Personal Decision
Making ---Wednesday, September 19, 12:00-1:00pm
Description
–Business Decision-Making Teleclass
"Leaders are made
or broken by the quality of their decisions." Find out who said
this, and learn strategies for business decision-making from the
Harvard Business Review. In this Teleclass we will explore long-and
short-term inquiry-based decision-making in the context of business.
See if these strategies from the experts can work for you!
Description
–Personal Decision-Making Teleclass
Making a decision
implies choices and cannot fail to have an impact on the area in
question.
Can you easily make
a decision and stick to it?
Do you find yourself having to make the same decisions over and over
again?
How clearly do you articulate what the decision to be made really is?
How do you make decisions—from your heart, your gut or from a
spreadsheet? Come have fun and explore this topic with others.
Women's Soccer
Women over 30 are invited to come play soccer! Whether you are just
starting or are more experienced, please join us. For more
information:
www.geocities.com/closetohomesoccer
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8. NEWSLETTER NOTES
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Elements Summer
2002 Written by: Star Dargin Edited by: Diane Johns
Advertising will
be accepted. Contact Star for rates at:
stars@stardar.com
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The opinions
expressed in Elements are the author's viewpoint. While every effort
has been taken to verify the accuracy of the content, such information
is subject to change without notice. Elements is not responsible for
inadvertent errors.
Star Dargin is an
independent coach, consultant and trainer and is a partner of Shared
Learning International:
www.sharedlearningint.com. As a professional coach and consultant
she collaborates with individuals and teams to provide focus and
balance in achieving personalized results.
Diane Johns is a
freelance editor and writer with longstanding interest and experience
in the human potential movement. She has been involved with business
publishing & marketing, as well as instructional design for many
years, and considers her work with words—especially how they can allow
others to shine—as the way she makes a difference. She can be reached
at dianeji@usa.net
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